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This three-part series of articles will focus on Healthy Habits, Stress Relief, and Balanced Lifestyle. Please leave your comments, ideas, questions and feedback in the Comment section of this blog. Thanks, and, Share the Health.

Note how each topic has 3 areas of Lifestyle activation; Nutrition, Exercise and Sleep; and how the overriding theme to each aspect is Consistency.


  • Choose the best available foods – if given the choice to feast on a steak dinner, do not choose the Denny’s “$6.99 Special with all the Fixins” just because it’s cheap or close to home; treat yourself to the best steak you can find/afford, whether it’s from a traditional steakhouse or your local butcher. If you’re going to treat yourself, treat yourself to the best possible choice. Eat slowly, enjoy it, savor it, appreciate it and look forward to the next time you have a taste for it, but never overeat or make a habit of it.
  • Slow down your eating – thoroughly appreciate and enjoy foods and utilize all the nutrients from them; every meal, from the butter on your toast in the morning, to that last sip of almond milk from your cereal bowl at night, should be fully enjoyed. Be grateful and thankful and make sure it offers value to your body and mind.
  • Increase your vegetable consumption – especially greens, to increase Vitamin K and magnesium in addition to a broad spectrum of minerals and vitamins (try one of the “green super foods” concentrations to ensure balanced amounts and types of minerals). Many common foods are vitamin fortified, but few are mineral fortified and that’s where our diets are lacking in value. A wide range of greens and colored vegetables will ensure you get adequate amounts of trace minerals which are so sparse in our common diets.
  • Eat small portions of a variety of foods – rather than large meals of massive calories and carbohydrates; stay hungry, but never “stuffed”; and resist grazing. Eat snacks from all 3 food groups, an apple, almonds, cheese; to get small doses of protein, carbohydrates and fats throughout the day, so you’re never craving any one food, but eat a little of each, each time. Develop a discipline of eating consistent staple foods – foods that you enjoy and take little preparation, while offering high nutritional value. Always have them available.
  • Pay attention to “buzz” foods – Buzz foods, like caffeine, first thing, before anything else gets in the belly, automatically revs the body up so that it’s in a constant state of over-energizing the nervous system; carbs do the same. That constant static runs your system down throughout the day like a low voltage light, unnoticed until you’re burned out. If you’re eating toast with jelly and a cup of coffee, you’re telling your body to get going “now”. It would be better to start slowly, drink lemon water while making eggs or oatmeal and let the body and mind warm up to the day, rather than attacking it like a live electrical wire that’s constantly “humming”, using up energy you think you’re giving it, but actually using energy it has not even made available.
  • Be consistent – your body thrives on good food, small portions, often. Give it the best you can on a consistent basis and your metabolism, and pants, will thank you.



  • MOTIVATION + ABILITY + TRIGGERS = BEHAVIOR – You will be motivated to the degree to which you feel comfortable, capable and competent in the activity and your ability to participate consistently. Do not wait for a catastrophic event to force you to exercise as a live or die alternative – be proactive toward exercise
  • How you behave and treat exercise begins with your attitude toward it; a positive motivation, like a new wardrobe or trip, can get you started; but ultimately, you will have to garner the good it’s doing for you into your mantra of getting it done. Pick something you’re capable of accomplishing consistently, and let that be the trigger that fires you into daily action. Notice how you look, feel, think and act, and let those feelings guide you. There will be many days you resent it, but twice as many full of compliments and congratulations on what you’re accomplishing.
  • Do what you can – choose sports and activities you have an ability to pursue as well as an affinity toward. See yourself doing them, read how to be better, get a trainer, learn. One client who couldn’t swim, never ran and had no bicycle, wanted to be a triathlete before her 40th birthday. Her attitude and ambition got her to finish two events within a year. Sure, it was work, but with consistent training, a few tears, trepidations and trials she never saw any part of it as being an activity she could not do. She believed, had faith and put one foot in front of the other until she reached the finish line.
  • Give yourself measurable goals that add up – so you truly feel you’re accomplishing something – daily walks, weekly workouts, x amount of yard work, exercise classes, gym days, golf or tennis, swimming, sports with children, etc. A good golfer keeps score to constantly be in a state of improvement. Treat your exercise activities with the same attention and take the time to notice and reward the improvements you see.
  • Be ready to try something new – Challenge yourself to new classes, workouts, activities. Your body is meant to be in motion. It is not a piece of furniture. It was made to move, it enjoys movement, it thrives and grows and meets the challenges set before it and then remembers past activities so you can build new strengths and try new activities. You lose function when you don’t use functions. The longer you stay away from it, the harder it is to get back to it and the more it goes away which keeps you in a perpetual state of restarting. It’s like swimming backwards, you’re going somewhere, but it’s not where you want to be.
  • Be consistent – your body craves it – get through the first 3 or 4 hard days of initiation, and you’ll look forward to it thereafter. There is no reason your workouts cannot be play. Ideas are plentiful, assistance is available, information is abundant, facilities are on every corner. DO NOT HAVE MORE EXCUSES THAN DISCIPLINE!



  • Get the “best available” sleep – How many times have you slept in a chair, comfortably, when 20 feet away there’s a bed with a $2500 mattress? Why does that happen? It happens when the body is so exhausted it will take anything as an excuse to pass out. How about when you get three hours sleep and you feel terrific, and then you get 10 hours sleep and you feel like crap? This happens because our bodies cycle through sleep in 90 minute cycles. When your body cycles through that time without disturbance or interruption, it gets rested. When it sleeps past those cycles or shorter than those cycles, it is “off.”
  • Get a minimum of 6 hours of sound sleep – equal to 4 – 90 minute cycles. Each sleep cycle takes you deeper and deeper into restful sleep. If you are awakened midway through a cycle, you must start all over again, dropping through those levels to get to the deepest state. It literally is “falling asleep”; you are dropping deeper and deeper through the conscious, semi-conscious and unconscious states. If you are awakened within that last 30 minutes of the 90 minute cycle, you will remain in that groggy, half-rested state, trying the rest of the day to gain momentum with physical action when the mental will not cooperate.
  • Do not agonize yourself into an anxious state – of “have to get to…” sleep. Try a gratitude approach instead, “this bed feels great…these sheets are so soft…the breeze feels so good…I’m happy for all I was able to accomplish today.” The messages you send your body and mind at the end of the day will influence the type of next day you’ll have; this is your last chance to be positive, regardless of how hard the day was.
  • Begin a consistent pattern – of winding down your nights and winding up your days. Babies know how much and when to sleep. How did we forget?
  • A sleep pattern is called that for a reason – It’s a pattern that your body is either in rhythm with, or out of sync with. Go to bed at the same time and get up at the same time, even on vacation.
  • Use darkness and silence – in going to sleep and in waking each day. These are two of the easiest, yet most beneficial points you can take from this essay.
  • Use the www.SLEEPYTI.ME site – to reset your sleep cycle. It’s a simple url that asks, “I have to wake up at?” or “I am going to fall asleep at?”, then gives you a 15 minute window in which your body normally takes to fall asleep. It gives you optimum waking times in 90 minute intervals; and the best part is, IT WORKS!
  • Utilize these healthy habits of consistent Nutrition, Exercise, and Sleep for 21 days to see what a difference they make in your lives.

And last, if you have any questions that I can help with, any motivations or support you need, please email me. Any suggestions, recipes, insights or information are also welcome and appreciated. Share the Health



Think back to the first inspirations you’d had to make you want to lift weights, body build, or compete in sports. What are your earliest memories? It could have been seeing Arnold on Wide World of Sports as he went from a huge muscular phenomenon to an absolute freak as the muscles flexed and his body became statuesque. It could have been your father or brother or neighbor or seeing professional athletes up close at your first real sporting event.

It could have been the “Feats of Strength” freak at the carnival sideshow, or a movie clip from one of the “Beach Blanket” movies. It could have even been Jack Lalane with his chair “breathing in, breathing out…” as he brought fitness to the living rooms of women  all over the country in the ’60’s.


There are two distinct things that stand out from my memory that helped to shape my life as a bodybuilder.

I must have been 5 or 6 years old. A guy from down the street, Wally, who came around infrequently, came walking from the end of the block in skinny, rolled up jeans, white Converse tennis shoes, and a white t-shirt that fit him like paint. He was smart, articulate, and kind with a joking demeanor. His shoulders hid the sun, his arms contoured and veiny, lean as a hunting dog, stuck from his shirtsleeves like deli salamis. His black Elvis “waterfall” hung over one eye and it took all of us to get the courage  to ask him our request. The reputation was that he could lift a car off the ground by the bumper.

“do, do, do…uh, can you, uh, maybe uh, lift a car up, uh…someone said you could…once”

Jumping around him like sparrows, we waited for his response. A ’60-something Buick Electra with fins as wide as his shoulders sat in the street.

“Will that do?” he nodded in its direction.

We squealed and clapped like we were getting ice cream. He stepped off the curb, set his feet firm and feigned straining like an actor in a Hercules movie. In whispers and a hush we dropped our jaws, awestruck, as the frame rose, the leaf springs stretched and the wheels came up as if it were a wagon instead of 2500lb. automobile. We were speechless. He dropped it in a thud as it shuddered back to resting, while we squealed inaudible fragments of unrecognized speech. He wiped his hands on his jeans, smiled amusingly as if it were routine, flashed a bigger grin and walked away as if we’d only broken his stride on his way to greater things.

Five of us squirmed and wriggled the bumper in unison grunts, not budging more than a rock out of the wheels. We laughed and backslapped and wiped our brows like we’d seen cowboys do  after a day on the range. I tried secretly, daily, for a week following the feat to see if I could work up the strength, as if will alone would carry me, to help me somehow miraculously lift it. But it never budged. One guy, by himself, lifted the thing off the ground. He was an immediate hero, an enigma to us kids in Red Ball Jets. I can still see his traps flex and his back stretched wide, the shoulders and triceps tighten and the biceps contract.

What impressed me more than anything in that moment was his humility. He didn’t ask for money, or a favor, or anything of us. He didn’t brag or debate, he did it our of the sheer joy of knowing that he could. He did it as if it were part of his daily walk, “…say hi to Mr. Brown,…lift a car off the ground…wink at Sandy on her porch…”


The second instance was an epiphany of sorts I’d gotten from going to church. I sat a few pews behind “George” who was 7 or 8 years older than me, a whole lifetime at my young age. I purposely looked for him every week. He would lean on the pew in front of him and the definition in his triceps would jump out from under his shirt sleeves. I swore one day to have arms like that, cuts like that, lean muscles that flexed when I moved; a bulging slab of definition that snuck from my shirt cuffs because it couldn’t be contained.

I didn’t know the muscles names but I knew that being a rail of a kid with zits bigger than my arms was not the way I wanted to go through life. The way the girls sidled closer to him, the audience he’d attracted, the turning heads, stealing smiles and coy glances; the powerful charisma he gave off and the attention he received made me decide he was the kind of guy I wanted to be. He was not cocky about it, just confident, polite, nice; a guy you’d want to be friends with, if he’d let you.


Little instances like that multiplied and compounded my fascination. I began reading muscle mags, asking older kids about weightlifting, asking why they did certain movements, trying things through feeling how they worked, climbing ropes, doing pushups, eventually pushing to do more in gym class and on teams rather than getting away with doing the least possible. I began at 14 and never stopped learning, sharing, growing, training, giving, believing, receiving. And my arms are awesome, naturally!

By doing more, paying attention and educating myself, unafraid to ask questions or seek challenges with my own body, the fascination became passion and the passion became vocation. The gym became my office and bodybuilding became as much an aspect of my being as the clothes I wear. I gave to it and it gave back in equal measure.

I’ve been blessed by the lives I’ve touched playing this weight game. It has opened many doors and led me on great adventures. I feel good knowing that over the years I’ve not only shared friendships and raised families with my peers, but more importantly, worked out and trained with every one of them at one time or another, giving this simple thing I have to share, with those I care about and love.



Imagine there is a bank that credits your account each morning with $86,400. It carries over no balance from day to day. Every evening it deletes whatever part of the balance you failed to use during the day.

What would you do? Draw out every cent, of course!

Each of us has such a bank. It’s name is TIME. Every morning, it credits you with 86,400 seconds. Every night it writes off, as lost, whatever of this you have failed to invest to good purpose. It carries over no balance. It allows no overdraft. Each day it opens a new account for you. Each night it burns the remains of the day. If you fail to use the day’s deposits, the loss is yours.

There is no going back. There is no drawing against the “tomorrow.” You must live in the present on today’s deposits. Invest it so as to get from it the utmost in health, happiness, and success!

The clock is running. Make the most of today.


To realize the value of ONE YEAR, ask a student who failed a grade. To realize the value of ONE MONTH, ask a mother who gave birth to a premature baby. To realize the value of ONE WEEK, ask the editor of a weekly newspaper. To realize the value of ONE HOUR, ask the lovers who are waiting to reunite. To realize the value of ONE MINUTE, ask a person who missed the flight. To realize the value of ONE SECOND, ask a person who just avoided an accident. To realize the value of ONE MILLISECOND, ask the person who won silver in the Olympics.

Treasure every moment that you have.

And treasure it more because you shared it with someone special, special enough to spend your time. And remember that time waits for no one. Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is mystery. Today is a gift. That’s why it’s called “The Present.”



The memory is so good it remembers even the things you choose to ignore.  It records the first smile your mother gave, your first kiss on a first date, bruises, grades, kindnesses, hurts and escapades; every nuance of emotion from gripping fear to jumping joy.  The more you choose to remember, the deeper imbedded it becomes.

So soak up life.  Sponge it up with all the gusto of the first home-cooked meal in a month.  Eat foods so alive they burst and pop and explode inside your mouth, like meatballs made of Poprocks, like sour or hot or luscious spaghetti sauce, enough to elicit drool.

Ride your bike with abandon and speed until it feels like the wheels are wobbling off. Run with arms and legs churning as if a dog were nipping at your jeans. Then lay to look at the clouds and the sun, long enough for the whole panorama to transform as far as you can see. Drink it in like you did the coldest drink on the hottest day. Attach your imagination to it, until that scene changes and you become it; lose yourself in the wonders you’ve found.

Listen in silence to the world the ears offer.  Separate the nuances of sound until the noise becomes one, then returns back to nothing.

Notice sunset, sunrise, full moons, winter brightness, blue skies over blue water seen through 20 feet up through a Tidy Bowl sea.

Remember friends, all the good things and even the bad; remember what they say you did, even though you can’t.

Take to heart and memory a whispered breath in your ear, as it moves across the creases, bringing the lobe’s hairs to attention and the hackles to dance beneath the hairline.  Remember what was said, the cadence, inflection, emotion and the ripples it sent. Remember who said it. Remember the clothes and the day and the scene and situation. Recall where you came from, and from there, where you went.

Remember music and words and books and authors. Quote poetry, learn something moving to recite verbatim; a speech, a line delivered with such conviction that emotion quivers on the eyelid’s rims as it’s spoken, from both you and the listener and any audience present.    Remember how good it feels to be alive.  Recall how pain feels but don’t dwell in it.

Take in every aspect of every thing, the way a newborn sees for the first time; observant, patient, unhurried, mesmerized by the lines of a face or the whiskers of a cat, or the way the wind moves the drapes and how the shadows dance.

Remember that you have an endless supply of storage space in your head and take your life to the end in pursuit of filling it with places and friends, feelings and scenery, beaches and crashing waves, embraces and tastes and fragrances from the person whose lips lay close to you; the scent of skin, hair and mouth of true love when you know it. Pay attention, you’ll know it.

Check out the petals of flowers and their symmetry, their depth of color, detail, life, and consistency. Notice all the balance and beauty that God creates with and remember to say “Thank You.”  See the hidden, hear the distant, touch the near, taste forbidden.

Remember manners and dreams and directions and birthdays.  Remember artists and teachers and idols and leaders and the stranger who lent you a hand. Remember those who smiled back when it’s you who led.

In each day an array of seemingly mundane events occur, yet somewhere hidden in the work or TV show or demands from others is a hidden gem of what you must learn.  Like each raindrop carries a grain of dirt, each insignificant quirk has something in it to learn from, so remember.  Remember all that moves you, to tears, to joy, to sorrow, to euphoria.  Your heart and brain were meant to feel those things; memory is the chain that links the life in little vignettes from birth to death,  so remember everything in between as only you were meant to experience it.




Keynote Speech to the Candidates for the Balanced Man Scholarship; presented by the

Sigma Phi Epsilon Fraternity at Lawrence Tech 2013


Many of you are students of Architecture. When constructing a skyscraper, you must dig a deep foundation in order to reach the greatest heights. The deeper the foundation, the higher the structure. Let your educational roots be set deep in this base of knowledge, so your mind may soar to its optimum expression.

As freshmen, you have 3 primary areas of growth ahead of you:

  1. Scholarship
  2. Involvement
  3. Relationships


You are now in the farm club. You made it to college. You are on a new team. Your talents and abilities brought you this far. They will sustain you. This opportunity is a test to see what you’re really made of. Let it prepare you for the big leagues of life. In order to be a superstar of scholarship, you must use:

  • intelligence
  • common sense
  • available information
  • intellectual property

Intelligence got you here. Your proven methods of study, application, understanding and research, got you here. The better you utilize the new assets available to you, the professors, subject matter experts, peers and knowledge base, the more you will exploit your own resources and the greater your intelligence will grow.

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